Humanmetrics

Took this test. Don't know much about it or how accurate it is. Judge for yourselves and do not hesitate to comment - not like you guys reserve your comments anyway. If you're interested, here's the website: http://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/JTypes2.asp

Your Type is ENFJ

Strength of the preferences %
Extroverted - 78%
Intuitive - 25%
Feeling - 75%
Judging - 67%

Qualitative analysis of your type formula. You are:
very expressed extrovert
moderately expressed intuitive personality
distinctively expressed feeling personality
distinctively expressed judging personality


Extraverted iNtuitive Feeling Judging by Joe Butt

ENFJs are the benevolent 'pedagogues' of humanity. They have tremendous charisma by which many are drawn into their nurturant tutelage and/or grand schemes. Many ENFJs have tremendous power to manipulate others with their phenomenal interpersonal skills and unique salesmanship. But it's usually not meant as manipulation -- ENFJs generally believe in their dreams, and see themselves as helpers and enablers, which they usually are.

ENFJs are global learners. They see the big picture. The ENFJs focus is expansive. Some can juggle an amazing number of responsibilities or projects simultaneously. Many ENFJs have tremendous entrepreneurial ability.

ENFJs are, by definition, Js, with whom we associate organization and decisiveness. But they don't resemble the SJs or even the NTJs in organization of the environment nor occasional recalcitrance. ENFJs are organized in the arena of interpersonal affairs. Their offices may or may not be cluttered, but their conclusions (reached through feelings) about people and motives are drawn much more quickly and are more resilient than those of their NFP counterparts.

ENFJs know and appreciate people. Like most NFs, (and Feelers in general), they are apt to neglect themselves and their own needs for the needs of others. They have thinner psychological boundaries than most, and are at risk for being hurt or even abused by less sensitive people. ENFJs often take on more of the burdens of others than they can bear.

Do not misconceive tolerance for acceptance

One person less in this world wouldn't make much of a difference, would it? In fact, the world may actually benefit from the non-existence of that one person and then maybe everyone's morale would be elevated.

This world is made up of so many different type of people. When you take a look around you, there is no one person that is identical. Isn't it amazing? Yet sometimes I wonder how and why some people are the way they are. Was it the way that they were brought up? Were there events in their life that affected them? Were there people who were a bad influence? But ultimately, are they the person that they are now because they truly believe that they are contributing positively towards others? Do they honestly believe that their criticisms, negativity and pessimism is a help to others?

Sometimes I feel like we are suckers for buying into their egotistical behaviour. It's not like we look up to them like they are our idol, but we save them from the embarassment of public humiliation. I believe we despise them more than anything but choose to be tolerant and they should be thankful for our consideration.

Be assured, we are the better people for tolerating with their nonsense. We will be the better people because we can learn from them and apply it to when we will have to deal with similar characters somehow, somewhere, sometime. The advantage for us is that we can feel the way we wish to feel, and are able to confine our anger and hatred within our hearts, and still retain a pleasant face in their presence.

So maybe we do benefit from their existence... because we are able to grow as individuals by learning about ourselves, and how much we are able to accept and respect others for who they are. Just remember, do unto others what you would have them do unto you... They don't deserve our submission to stoop as low as they are. We can be the better person!

Treasure what you have...

Had a wonderful weekend. Kevin came down from Auckland to spend the weekend with me here in Christchurch. It was great! The weather was much warmer than expected. The sun actually shone! It was a very busy weekend though, that included both happy and sad events.


I was thinking of writing all the details of everything that happened during the weekend but there's just too much to write and not enough time. Overall, I couldn't be happier! :)

The photograph above is of Kevin and I, taken in Andrew's house at Mark's surprise birthday party. Happy belated 25th birthday Markie, my chubby huggable teddy bear!!

I decided to discard the original blog that i had written because it seemed to be too sad. Therefore, I don't have anything to really share with you except for this photo which pretty much sums up my weekend... That is, Kevin being here with me, and both of us happily smiling away. :) Maybe the lesson for today could be... always treasure what you have...

Something different...

"Different doesn't always mean it's bad. Different just means different."

I was watching "Scrubs" today and this phrase just jumped out at me. Something different... I wonder, how many of us are actually afraid of change and find it challenging to step outside of our comfort zone? Perhaps it is our human nature to always want to be around those that we've grown so used to having around, to doing the things that we're so used to doing, and are so settled in our daily routine that something "different" seems incomprehensible.

I personally dislike the thought of change especially when things are fine as they are. But i've had to deal with changes and adjustments recently and am still struggling with them. I guess people deal with change in their own way. Some welcome the thought, while others avoid it and some, just go with the flow and take on a responsible view that it's necessary for the future and perhaps it is... but some of us are just so slow in grasping that concept.

Either way, i guess we have to move on sometime... and change is just a phase in life that we constantly face because without change, we will never grow and who knows, change could bring about an even better outcome than if things had stayed the same... So maybe we should all be more open to change and actually, try to see what it's telling us... Maybe there's something out there that we have been ignoring the whole time...

So no matter which way you address change, the next time you're facing something different... try to think of it in a more positive way... maybe there's a lesson in it there you're suppose to learn... just open your eyes and capture it.

Fantasy vs Reality

Am i too easy going? Am i too soft hearted? What is it about me that makes people think that i can be taken advantage of? What is the meaning of friendship when there is no respect between the people of which a friendship bond is suppose to have developed?

I'm starting to wonder whether it is a defect in my personality, or whether it is common for people to take advantage of one another. Am i that easy to be trodden over? What is it about me... Is it my own fault that people perceive me like this?

I want to have a heart of stone... and skin as thick as leather... I want to be unforgiving... and i want to be selfish! People don't deserve my kindness and i don't deserve they're ungratefulness.

Gratitude! Respect! Honesty! Sincerity! These words exist in the dictionary so why don't they exist in reality?!

Ever so slowly...

Have you ever noticed how time passes so slowly when you're wishing for it to pass in the blink of an eye?

I'm sitting in my room, in front of my computer and all i can hear is the ticking of the clock and a slight hum from my computer. Winter is so cold in Christchurch, the temperature is currently 9 degrees celsius and i'm wrapped up in a blanket wearing my pajamas, dreading the thought of leaving my heated bedroom. *sHiVeR*!

It's almost 4:00pm. I haven't achieved much today except for setting up this blog and learning how to use it. I slept in today because i'm still recovering from my cold which was a result of me acclimatising to the weather in Christchurch after spending a month in Auckland. The cold weather has kept me in these days, only leaving the house when necessary.

I never really addressed the idea of having a blog until recently. In the back of my mind, i always felt that a written journal was far more personal than one published online. I guess i have succumbed to modern technology.

I shall leave it here for now and try to accomplish the more productive things that i had planned for today.

Signing off...